“Unresolved Grief”

Albert an me


Unresolved grief and my brother Albert, who was killed at age 28.


Albert was 10 months older than I am, and the only stability in my life. He had tried to give me a happy childhood, which was a challenge in our chaotic household.
Unlike our parents, Albert never forgot my important days. When there wasn’t anything to eat at home, he always found
a way to provide. He was my HERO!
Losing someone you deeply love and cherish at a young age is terrifying. I got mad at God. Why with all the bad things happening in my home, did God take the only person who really cared about me?
When you lose an important and significant person in your life, your days become difficult and less meaningful, nothing seems to matter. Unresolved grief can change your judgment of life.
I was depressed for years after he was killed, then finally got the courage to deal with his loss. You can said I finally grew up. It was not easy, but it had to be done.
There will never be another connection like the one I had with my brother. But now I see life clearer and have more understanding. We have to keep surviving and learning until we reach our final destination and cross over and meet again. 🙂
I’m dedicating my book The Baggage Handler to Albert, so he can know that no matter how bad it got for me and how often I got kicked to the ground, and how often I kicked myself to the ground, I kept getting up — just like he showed me when I was young.
He often said, “Jimbo, don’t ever quit!”
And I never Will

Excerpted from the forthcoming memoir, The Baggage Handler.

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9 Responses to “Unresolved Grief”

  1. schn00dles says:

    Thanks for dropping by my blog. I’m enjoying reading yours. This post is especially affecting.

  2. I felt the same way when my brother Doug died, only I had him in my life for a much longer time. Doug still connects with me from the Spirit World, though less often now. By the way, you write very well…your book sounds intriguing! Has it been published yet? (Thanks for the follow!)

  3. Phil says:

    Losing a close sibling can be the most devastating of all.

  4. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss but so glad to hear you have reached a place of understanding and still managed to achieve things in spite of this loss. I’m sure your brother would be very proud of you and this post gives people lie myself hope that life goes on and positive things can still happen.

  5. cate b says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your heart. I totally get it. And thank you for following my blog. I am reading yours now 😀

  6. wildinvirginia says:

    What a sad loss … I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Sometimes brothers are more than siblings and I agree, where’s the justice in taking your rock? I also agree you have a brother waiting to say “See, told you not to quit”. I mean, aren’t they always right lol

  7. Thank you for likeing my blog, and for sharing this AMAZING life experience you have. I am hooked on this blog for hours now, and cant quit 🙂 I was wondering when or where I should comment, and this seems the perfect place. I lost my brother with 6. For MANY years coming I had lost me. I am still parcially numb, but things get a little brighter each day. Thank you for this post, I was thinking on writing my story too, soon. There´s no way a brother could ever be replaced, and all we got to hang on to are the memories with them. I had 6 years , you had 28.
    ps: I was trying not to read the posts from your upcoming memoirs so I could buy the book and still could read new (unknown) material, but i just caaaannt.

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